At 48, I was asking “Is this who I’m supposed to be?”

My mom had passed away fairly suddenly. I was in the process of closing my baking company after 11 years. My entire identity was wrapped up in that company. I was mourning the loss of both and questioning everything.

A couple years later, the question of “do I want to live the next 20 years the same way I lived the last 20?” was still running through my mind.

If not, what would I do differently?

Because after 20 years of marriage and life, I was wondering where did the girl I used to be go? She used to be fun. Going to concerts and dancing and barbequing with friends. Now I didn’t even know what I considered fun anymore.

Many of my friends and colleagues felt similarly stuck. We talked about it all the time. But no one was willing to make a move.

That’s the thing about friends. They’re willing to commiserate with you when you’re all in the same boat. But pushing you to make a change can be scary for them because it forces them to deal with their own crap.

Then I reached the day when I decided I had to do the thing I didn’t want to do. It was time, for the highest good of everyone involved. I had to jump off the cliff without being able to see the ground or knowing what would happen on the way down.

Once I took that leap, I became the guide for the others.

This has been my natural role in life. First-born, January baby – always the trailblazing leader and coach.

So, it makes perfect sense that I’m offering my hand and help to you through this transitional time where you’re questioning your marriage, your career choice, or your overall life purpose.

Hey girl, after living by someone else’s playbook, it’s time to play by your own rules. You’ve got this! Let me show you the way.